Being asked to be a bridesmaid can be a huge honour and momentous moment in your life, it can also be financially and emotionally draining so its best to prepare yourself for the huge task ahead.
Despite what the name might suggest, you are not a maid, but the role of being a bridesmaid can feel like a very demanding job and you will need to be there every step of the way for your bestie before and during the big day.
If you have been handed the task (honour) of being a bridesmaid be prepared to cough up some cash, sleep very little and put in an enormous amount of effort to please the bride-to-be. Here's what to expect in the months leading up to the wedding:
Be her emotional rock AT ALL TIMES
This will have to be bridesmaid duty number one because regardless of what you have to do, regardless of how stressful the situation becomes your girl is going to need your support all the damn time.
Planning a wedding is stressful and a wedding can be an extremely emotional time, and the bride-to-be will need your support both during the months leading up to the wedding and on the big day itself.
Bridesmaid pro tip: There will be real tears and happy tears, fears and plenty of cheers so carry some tissues at all times.
Be prepared to buy a bridesmaid dress even if it's hideous
And whatever you do, DON'T complain about the cost, look, colour or anything!
While some brides cover the cost of decking their bridesmaids out, it might not always be the custom. Don't stress though there is a fine line between paying for your own dress and being left bankrupt from a dress you're likely to only wear once. It's all within reason ladies, but it goes without saying, weddings are expensive so start saving.
Help plan the most amazing and memorable hen weekend
If there is a wedding to plan, there is a hen party to plan as well.
And, unlike the wedding, the hen party should be hassle-free, completely fun and full of great memories and bonding times with your besties.
While the brunt of organising a hen party will fall on the Maid of Honour, bridesmaids are expected chip in with ideas, give feedback, help organise, decorate, splash some cash and help with hostess duties as well.
Bridesmaid pro tip: Or you can just leave it all up to us, after all, we've been in the business of planning hen parties for more than 20 years and have over 500,000 happy customers so we can organise the ultimate hen weekend in a world-famous destination.
Give up your weekends and attend everything
In the months leading up to the wedding, your weekends no longer belong to you as you have your friend's prenuptial commitments to attend to.
From the bridal shower, hen party, wedding rehearsal, rehearsal dinner and even spray tan and makeup trials, your weekends are fully booked for the months leading up to the wedding. Make no plans and considered yourself completely unavailable because your ass is committed to one thing only, your bestie's wedding and all her wedding events.
Outside all the rehearsals and pre-wedding festivities, you want to make yourself 100 per cent available because you never know when the bride-to-be might call you in the midst of a full-on meltdown and you need to be on her doorstep with chocolate and a bottle of prosecco within minutes.
Bridesmaid pro tip: Stock up on chocolate and prosecco.
"What can I help with?"
Everything, you will need to help with all the prewedding tasks and just absolutely everything.
You can never ask "What can I help with?" enough, so ask it one thousand times in the lead up to the wedding.
As a bridesmaid, you have the duty of helping your bride select her dress, shoes, accessories and more as well as repeating the process for the bridesmaids. On top of this, she will also need your support in organising all the pre-wedding celebrations, invitations, wedding favours, decoration bouquets and more.
You help, you always help.
Get ready for a mammoth amount of gift giving
Between the bridal shower, engagement party and wedding, there is a ton of gift giving when it comes to marriage.
While as a bridesmaid, you aren't expected to buy a gift for every occasion you need to go all in for the most epic wedding gift.
After all, it is the most important one.
Bridesmaid pro tip: Team up with the bridesmaids for the ultimate buying power and get a gift that knocks the brides wedding garter off.
Money, Money, Money and more MONEY
Once again, it should go without saying, weddings are expensive.
Before taking on the commitment of being a bridesmaid remember there are a lot of costs.
Dress, shoes and wedding attire aside, you will need to be prepared to pay for your own transport and accommodation on the night of the wedding and hen party plus all the hidden extras. Makeup, tanning, hen parties and everything else leading up to the wedding costs plenty of money so make sure your friend's big day doesn't leave you with a big debt to worry about afterwards.
Regardless of all the tasks and expenses of bridesmaids may have to bare, being by your besties side as she marries the love of her life is an unforgettable and truly rewarding experience and we know you will love it.
being a bridesmaid is stressful enough, so let Maximise take some of the load off your shoulders and organise the ultimate hen party for your besties. For extra ideas and fun hen party reading including 'how to have a non-tacky Hen Party', check out our blog as well.
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